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Indecision is the feeling that often arises in the hearts of the singles when he must decide whom he will marry. This feeling appears reasonable, because the decision to marry is a big decision that will affect the way a person's life, therefore they will be careful in determine the candidate companion of his life.
Indecision is also felt sort of Annie, 24-year-old woman who happened to be flawless in image. As a Muslim he had felt uncomfortable with the men who tried to approach him. For him there is only one solution, get married. But he was so confused which one should man she received courtship. In the eyes of Annie every man who tried to approach it has disadvantages. Annie now be wondering what the hell was the requirement that he must be set for candidates running mate later?.
No ivory that is not cracked, it was said a saying to express the fact no one is perfect. Every person must have a deficiency, but in fact there are basic personality qualities should we and our partners have the potential to build palace for a happy home. Personal qualities include:
religious Quality
Religion is a belief that affects the liver, thoughts feelings and your behavior so that people who have the insight and experience of good faith will be greatly assisted in overcoming various problems. This condition will eventually affect your happiness and longevity of a marriage.
Having Commitment To Develop Self
Every person has its pros and cons msing respectively. But each person also has the opportunity to grow. It is important for us to have a commitment to personal development, namely how does one understand the gaps, learn from mistakes and willing to listen to the advice of others. All of this comes down to how he is building and developing itself to become a better person and more wise.
Emotional Openness means a person who has feelings, knowing what he was feeling, willing to share feelings with their partners and know how to express feelings. Emotional openness to capital is important in establishing communication with our spouses, while capital good communication is important in building harmonious household.
Has Integrity
Everyone who has a pair of candidates crave integrity self. We want people who, honestly, both against themselves and against others, in this case especially with a partner, we also want our prospective partner is the person who did not play in making decisions that affect their future. That is the meaning of integrity.
Maturity and Responsibility
Having kematangaan means he can take care of herself, knows where the good / bad for her. While the charge means he understands the steps he took along with the risks that may be encountered.
Have Self-Esteem
Remember that a person can love he should love himself. Therefore, behold how he loved himself. If he did not love him, how could he possibly love her partner?
Positive Attitude To Life
Those who have a positive attitude in life will try to convert all constraints into opportunities, and generally believe that everything will be good.
That's all the qualities the ideal candidate should possess oeleh our partners and ourselves when we would get married. But the situation faced by Annie or similar situations, it often makes us unable to think clearly. Because it is the things that we must beware not to mistake in choosing a mate. Things like this may help us:
1. Do not be too quick to decide to marry with the him
Provide sufficient time to obtain sufficient information about your potential mate is. There are some things we need to know from our lives that the prospective partner:
a. Background of Life.
- nasab / background descendants include the family relationship of origin, whether derived from intact families, harmonious, or a broken home. Including form relationships with siblings
- Religion, norms or values \u200b\u200bof socio-economic status, ethnicity, cultural traditions family of origin.
- Is there a hereditary disease associated with genetic factors.
b. Issues relating to the quality of self-
- Quality Self
- Akhlaq
- The type of personality (closed / open, quiet, cheerful, emotional, patient)
- education, intellectual capacity, professional.
- Background organizations, social activities.
-
problem solving ability - confidence.
2. Do not get married at the age of the immature personally
Ready to get married means getting ready to face the problem that all required maturity to think and behave. This maturity can not be measured with more mature age than those who are older.
Maturity also affects our choice of candidates in our mates. Those who are less mature tend to just amazed at the things that are only superficial.
3. Do not choose a partner just to please others
is you who are lucky or who suffer with your wedding. If any factor among others in bringing you to the he be sure that you are the one who decided that it was he who does the best for you (of course beristiqarah first).
4. Do not marry with expectations that are unrealistic
Usually initial intention to marry affect what issues will dominate over the life of marriage. Satisfaction in marital life and to reject the measuring is in that hope. If not met will cause disappointment.
5. Do not marry someone who has a problem personality
Beware of people who have a personality that is difficult to change, it takes understanding and gracefully incredible to deal with people like this. Basically every person has a problem behavior, but that needs attention is how the content, intensity and frequency into the category of someone who has a personality problem is if you have the problematic behavior that dominates daily life and affect adaptations with others. Usually people like this often make others or himself feel disturbed and uncomfortable with his behavior. Inna
Mutmainnah, S. Psi.
Source: Magazine Safina No. 2/Th.1
Indecision is the feeling that often arises in the hearts of the singles when he must decide whom he will marry. This feeling appears reasonable, because the decision to marry is a big decision that will affect the way a person's life, therefore they will be careful in determine the candidate companion of his life.
Indecision is also felt sort of Annie, 24-year-old woman who happened to be flawless in image. As a Muslim he had felt uncomfortable with the men who tried to approach him. For him there is only one solution, get married. But he was so confused which one should man she received courtship. In the eyes of Annie every man who tried to approach it has disadvantages. Annie now be wondering what the hell was the requirement that he must be set for candidates running mate later?.
No ivory that is not cracked, it was said a saying to express the fact no one is perfect. Every person must have a deficiency, but in fact there are basic personality qualities should we and our partners have the potential to build palace for a happy home. Personal qualities include:
religious Quality
Religion is a belief that affects the liver, thoughts feelings and your behavior so that people who have the insight and experience of good faith will be greatly assisted in overcoming various problems. This condition will eventually affect your happiness and longevity of a marriage.
Having Commitment To Develop Self
Every person has its pros and cons msing respectively. But each person also has the opportunity to grow. It is important for us to have a commitment to personal development, namely how does one understand the gaps, learn from mistakes and willing to listen to the advice of others. All of this comes down to how he is building and developing itself to become a better person and more wise.
Emotional Openness means a person who has feelings, knowing what he was feeling, willing to share feelings with their partners and know how to express feelings. Emotional openness to capital is important in establishing communication with our spouses, while capital good communication is important in building harmonious household.
Has Integrity
Everyone who has a pair of candidates crave integrity self. We want people who, honestly, both against themselves and against others, in this case especially with a partner, we also want our prospective partner is the person who did not play in making decisions that affect their future. That is the meaning of integrity.
Maturity and Responsibility
Having kematangaan means he can take care of herself, knows where the good / bad for her. While the charge means he understands the steps he took along with the risks that may be encountered.
Have Self-Esteem
Remember that a person can love he should love himself. Therefore, behold how he loved himself. If he did not love him, how could he possibly love her partner?
Positive Attitude To Life
Those who have a positive attitude in life will try to convert all constraints into opportunities, and generally believe that everything will be good.
That's all the qualities the ideal candidate should possess oeleh our partners and ourselves when we would get married. But the situation faced by Annie or similar situations, it often makes us unable to think clearly. Because it is the things that we must beware not to mistake in choosing a mate. Things like this may help us:
1. Do not be too quick to decide to marry with the him
Provide sufficient time to obtain sufficient information about your potential mate is. There are some things we need to know from our lives that the prospective partner:
a. Background of Life.
- nasab / background descendants include the family relationship of origin, whether derived from intact families, harmonious, or a broken home. Including form relationships with siblings
- Religion, norms or values \u200b\u200bof socio-economic status, ethnicity, cultural traditions family of origin.
- Is there a hereditary disease associated with genetic factors.
b. Issues relating to the quality of self-
- Quality Self
- Akhlaq
- The type of personality (closed / open, quiet, cheerful, emotional, patient)
- education, intellectual capacity, professional.
- Background organizations, social activities.
-
problem solving ability - confidence.
2. Do not get married at the age of the immature personally
Ready to get married means getting ready to face the problem that all required maturity to think and behave. This maturity can not be measured with more mature age than those who are older.
Maturity also affects our choice of candidates in our mates. Those who are less mature tend to just amazed at the things that are only superficial.
3. Do not choose a partner just to please others
is you who are lucky or who suffer with your wedding. If any factor among others in bringing you to the he be sure that you are the one who decided that it was he who does the best for you (of course beristiqarah first).
4. Do not marry with expectations that are unrealistic
Usually initial intention to marry affect what issues will dominate over the life of marriage. Satisfaction in marital life and to reject the measuring is in that hope. If not met will cause disappointment.
5. Do not marry someone who has a problem personality
Beware of people who have a personality that is difficult to change, it takes understanding and gracefully incredible to deal with people like this. Basically every person has a problem behavior, but that needs attention is how the content, intensity and frequency into the category of someone who has a personality problem is if you have the problematic behavior that dominates daily life and affect adaptations with others. Usually people like this often make others or himself feel disturbed and uncomfortable with his behavior. Inna
Mutmainnah, S. Psi.
Source: Magazine Safina No. 2/Th.1
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